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Work at Home Mom Listing

I have added a work at home mom listing to this blog.  Many times we as moms take on part time work from home to add some additional income to the household and to give us something to focus on other than mothering our children.  So I’ve begun a listing here at this site as sort of a one-stop area for anyone who is looking for a new, part or full time career.  This is not an exclusive list, if you are a representative for a company but you see another representative listed that doesn’t mean you can’t be listed as well.  This is a site that promotes cooperation and support, not competition.  If you would like to add your business to the listing simply leave a comment with  your business name, your name, website and phone number and I’ll add it to the list!

Carolyn

September 4, 2009 Posted by | Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Just Some Shameless Self-Promotion!

Several wonderful things have happened in my life lately!  I thought I would take a few moments to share with you some of these developments!

First of all I have decided to join the Roger’s Cable First Local Stratford volunteer team as a reporter.  I will also be doing some videography and editing behind the scenes and I will be helping our producer, Katia Maxwell with the blog!  I’m excited about this.  It’s a fun opportunity and what a way to insert myself back into the community again after six years of stay at home parenting!

I’ve also become a regular contributer for Attachment Parenting International’s website, posting to their blog twice a month!  This is a fun gig.  I’ve wanted to start writing about parenting issues but didn’t know if I could maintain another blog(I already have three) but I’ve been involved with the Mothering Magazine community for a long time, first as a member and now as a moderator and I’ve learned a lot about attachment parenting and I’ve had a lot of practice in real life.  This is a great opportunity for me to share some insights into my vision of what attachment parenting and gentle discipline looks like in practice.   You can find my parenting articles by clicking on the nice little badge in my sidebar!

More recently I received an invitation from Dr. Geoffrey Rutledge MD, Phd. to become a regular contributing member of  the  Wellsphere community’s Health Blogger Network.  I will be a featured health blogger contributor.  One of my other blogs is a wellness/weightloss/body image blog  and this is the blog that will be featured on Wellsphere .  I’m very excited to be a part of this network.  This Wellsphere community boasts 6 million in traffic monthly.  Dr. Geoffrey Rutledge’s credentials include teaching at Harvard and Stanford and he is the founder of WebMD.  I’m very honoured to have been invited to be a part of this team!   Again there is a lovely badge in my sidebar to click to see my work there!  You can also click my blog that will be linked to that site Weighless and Weightless

August 8, 2009 Posted by | Uncategorized | Leave a comment

First Event! Movie Screening of The Shift!

When I started planning the first event for my Other Than Mother initiative, the movie screening of The Shift, I was so excited.  I was talking to a friend of mine online and she said, having much experience in organising such events for mothers, you will have 10-12 people interested, you will have 5 that will be definite, several moms will have last minute child care issues, 1 will get sick and someone will show up that you hadn’t expected.  But the ones that show up will be the cream of the crop.  My friend(you know who you are) was exactly right, down to a cancellation due to a migraine and a cancellation for childcare.

We had 7 attendees including me.  With such a small group I thought I would give a brief bio of each of them because they have such wonderful lives and experiences to share.   Truly the cream of the crop!

Let’s start with the surprise guest.  Her name is Colleen.  She is visiting Canada from Australia for a year.  She came to spend that time with her dad and brought along her three children.  She is obviously, from the brief conversations we had, highly intelligent and well-versed in the ideas of Dr. Wayne Dyer and other personal growth gurus.  Please  send me your email Colleen, I forgot to get it last night but I think you will read this at some  point!   I would love to get to know you better and have you at some of our future events before you go back home!

Then there was my sister, Marie.   Marie has three daughters, my wonderful neices Megan, Michelle and Abigail.  I have been so fortunate to have her and the two younger girls as my house guests this past week.  Marie graduated from University with a degree in recreational phys-ed and also has a photography diploma and a business diploma from further studies over the years.  Most recently she applied to become an RCMP officer!  How brave, at 41, to even try such a venture but with the support of her family she is making a huge shift.  She will do the physical fitness test in August.  If she is accepted she will begin a rigourous 26 week training in Regina, Saskatchewan.  Her kids will miss her but what an inspiration for her daughters!  I’m very proud of her.

Then there is Deb.  Deb is a dear friend and the former editor of a community newspaper.  That’s where we met, back when I was manager of another department at the same newspaper.  We spent many weekends together travelling to Great Big Sea concerts and making complete fools of ourselves and laughing incessantly.  Deb now has a grand daughter who is the same age as my youngest daughter so we’ve got other more important games to play now.  Deb went back to school when her daughter was young to study journallism.  She is a brilliant and funny writer however after being “downsized”  with a decent severance she decided to take a bit of a sabatical.  As a result of that she studied meditation at the local Dharma centre and became a student of Buddhism.  She now works at the Waterloo Regional Dharma Centre organising retreats and events.  She is so happy in her work and it allows her the freedom to visit her granddaughter in Toronto frequently!

Roxanne is a friend of mine from here.  Originally from Toronto, she and her husband moved to Kitchener for ten  years before finally realising their dream of owning a farm. They bought a farm just outside of Tavistock where I live and they have one daughter, Hannah.  Her interests lie in organic farming, sustainable living, natural food and green lifestyle choices.  She will likely grow organic crops on her property down the road but right now her focus is on her very young daughter.  She has a quiet intelligence and peaceful essence.  We see each other weekly at our playgroups with the kids and I always look forward to it.

Darleen is my yoga teacher.  She is trained in Aruveda and Yoga and several of us here in town invited her to come teach us some basic yoga.  She is so warm and such a gentle, patient teacher, after half a dozen sessions we were all able to perform some basic yoga, enough to do a flow or routine for certain occasions, I regularly do sun salutations in the morning or other poses to aid in posture and flexibility.  I love how she teaches authentically incorporating the meditative/spiritual aspects of the practice.  Yoga is addictive.  You feel better when you do it so you can’t stop once you learn.  She has two children who blessed us with their presence about halfway through the movie.  They were incredibly well behaved.  Darleen’s child care option fell through but knowing how much she wanted to come, and knowing how quiet her children could be, they were welcomed as well. 

Dr. Tanya Chambers is a chiropractor who owns the facility we used for our screening.  She has two small children and her husband, also a chiropractor, works with her at the Stratford Wellness & Chiropractic Centre.  The centre hosts a variety of events, for the community and Tanya is a well known presence around the city for her involvement in community events.  She was completely generous in her time and allowed me to use the space free of charge, a gift I will be forever grateful for.  Her husband currently is sporting a fractured arm so she is covering for him as he heals, taking care of his patients as well as her own.  I’m in awe of her ability to do so with such calm and acceptance. 

After the movie we chatted about as we ate some refreshements and socialised.  I believe everyone enjoyed the move greatly, I know I did.  It was actually the first time I had sat through it in its entirety uninterrupted.  Tanya asked to borrow it which is exactly what we’re supposed to do.  Pass it on.  I consider that a success right there. 

On the way home my sister and I had a long talk about it.  The theme of spirituality that runs through the movie, the thread of  hope and peace that runs through the characters as they make the shift  from a life of ambition of strife and struggle for excess to a life of acceptance and peace seemed to speak to all of us equally but for different reasons.

I was reading a blog the other day that my friend writes and she had been speaking with a Cherokee Chief who put it this way.  “Spirituality is God speaking to man, Religion is man speaking to God”.  How very profound and how very true.  They are not mutually exclusive however the first is much easier for man because we simple need to be quiet, sit and allow, no rules, no regulations, no struggle.

So with greatest gratitude to the universe, wise Cherokee chiefs, my friends, and Dr. Wayne Dyer I say

Namaste

Breeze

June 6, 2009 Posted by | Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Other Than Mother~The Launch

It seems official now.  The press has contacted me several times about my press release and an announcement will be made in the local paper about the movie screening as well as the Other Than Mother initiative.  The editor, a woman, seemed interested in where the money for the tickets would be going.  As I had to purchase the movie and will be providing refreshments I believe $5 to be a nominal fee.  I definitely am not doing this for profit!  I do hope that I will reap the benefits of discussing personal growth of mothers in a different manner, with a wealth of ideas for the book I’ve been working on.

The book was started nearly a year ago and came to a stand still in November when I wrote a novel.  I’ve found it difficult to piece together what I’m trying to say in the book.  I want it to be a quick, informative read about what makes it difficult for women with children to fulfill their own needs, how often we search for meaning at the girls night out at the bar(which I have no objection to if you need a fun night out) or a massage or just time away from our children.  Making the assumption though, that for most women this doesn’t fulfill them in anyway, just provides a break, is somewhat arrogant I suppose but I do trust that women have larger roles to fulful beyond mother.  Maybe larger isn’t the correct phrase either.  What I’m thinking is that we have something else to offer that leads us away from the martyr trap of motherhood into the well-rounded woman who happens to be a wonderful, fantastic mother and role model to her children.

As part of the initiative I am also hoping to give something to the fathers.  A chance to be all they can be as caretakers as well.  I believe men have a lot more to give as nurturers than they have ever been given credit for.  I think the opportunity to have the time to prove themselves able is imperative to the health of the entire family and of benefit to the mother.

I’m also hoping that when women return home after the movie, they will have found a way to not be upset at their husbands if the house is not as clean and tidy as when they left it or if the house is tidier, not to feel inadequate.  Remember we all have our own strengths and weaknesses to deal with and allowing our partners, male or female to be flawed is very important to personal growth.

I am very much looking forward to the event and hope to sell some more tickets.  So far I’ve only had one iquiry.  My posters aren’t up yet so maybe that will help.  I go tomorrow to 9 places around town to post.  And the papers come out on Wednesday and Thursday with my notices in them.  I’ll keep you posted!

 

Breeze

May 26, 2009 Posted by | Uncategorized | Leave a comment

The Shift

The Shift is a new movie starring Dr. Wayne Dyer along with award winning actress Portia De Rossi and directed by Michael Goojian.  Beautiful Asilomar, California is the backdrop for this movie, a collection of several different storylines interwoven by the narration of Dr. Wayne Dyer as he teaches about life, love, happiness and peace. 

I chose this as my first Other Than Mother event because I felt it would be a great spring board to launch women into the journey to personal growth and discovery.  The story line of one particular character in the film exactly mirrors the dilemma faced by many women who have become mothers and lost who they really are as people.

The goal of Other Than Mother is to help women discover what it is that they love to do and try to do it.  Many women try to find their escape in superficial care taking, a manicure, a massage, a spa day, a shopping day but this type of event often has its place but it is only a temporary escape. 

Fitting in time for the passion of your life, whatever it is, a career, a hobby, sailing, running, writing, drawing is of utmost importance to the health of the woman and the family unit.

I liken the mother of the family to the rudder of a boat.  She keeps everybody on course.  But if she’s not cared for, damaged, bent the boat will not steer in the right direction. 

So the first step is identifying the passion.  The first seminar after the movie will be on that exact topic.  The speakers will be women who have found what they are passionate about and are doing it with family support and cooperation.

May 18, 2009 Posted by | Mother, Movie, Other Than Mother, Personal Growth, Seminars, Uncategorized | 1 Comment